Family, Five Minute Friday, Motherhood


It’s Friday, that means we shake our hair out a bit and take a deep breath, we let some words loose for just five minutes. We don’t edit, we don’t critique, we DO encourage. So lets play, shall we?

Lisa-Jo chooses the prompt and this week, it’s Connect.


We wind through the mountains through patches where cell phones drop calls and radio signals cross and go fuzzy.

The landscape flashes past hilly and wooded, very different from the flatter Ohio I’ve grown accustomed to seeing. The kids wiggle anxious, this is vacation and we’re all aching for a turn in the pool and a nap on a bed someone else gets paid to make for us.

We pack our days here at home to the brim and I realize just two days away from all this noise, how easily we forget to connect. There’s a difference between being with someone and really being with someone. I spend all day with my children and yet on vacation, in a hotel, suddenly I am connecting with them in a way I hadn’t recently.

It’s a strange feeling when you realize you’re missing things right under your nose. My 6 year old suddenly matured over night in some ways. He always adapts well to change, I knew that, but something was different this time. And my 4 year old has a hidden anxiety I hadn’t realized until this trip.

I’m tempted to persecute myself for missing these things that perhaps have been here all along, but instead, perhaps my time would be better spent thanking God for the connection, and learning a bit more about these people in my charge.

Connecting requires intentional effort. It requires focus and conscious listening, hearing the word and reading the faces, the body language, learning the mind of the one you’re linked with.

And so I return home with new missions, new frame of reference, a better understanding of what it is to be with the people I’m with every day.


Joining Lisa-Jo and fabulous others for a five minute write. Join us?


  1. One Faithful Mom

    Loved this!! And so true. Even as a homeschooling mom, that list mindset can take over, until I am not connecting with anyone in the house. Thank you for such a great reminder to really LOOK adn really LISTEN!!

  2. I understand this… “It’s a strange feeling when you realize you’re missing things right under your nose.”

    Oh, when I get this feeling, the feeling of regret quickly follows, weighing me down, and just as quickly His grace sweeps me up.

    I am still learning. I hope that next week’s break and regular ones after, help me stay present in the moment. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. I need His strength.

    Thank you for your mama’s heart…

  3. Wendy

    So love this Kris. Was thinking today as my oldest went and tested for his driving permit…when did he get to be 16? did I forget to stop time? In reality I knew in my head that he had grown, but it just hit my heart today. Way too fast. Thanks so much for sharing! Blessings!

    1. alwaysalleluia

      Oh Wendy. I know what you mean, even though mine are still so small, they are shooting past me in a blur and connecting is critical, or I will miss this. Bless you, my friend.

  4. StefanieYoungBrown

    Your heart flows strongly through your words. The words that caught me today were “Connecting requires intentional effort.” How true! We must, on purpose, connect with both those we love as well as those we want to love.
    Great post, Kris!

  5. HopeUnbroken

    oooooohhhh, yes. being WITH the people i’m with every day. and that is what the Lord put on my heart just yesterday. how often i’m here but gone. i’m intentionally working on that. setting more limits. it’s gonna take some time, i think.
    love your encouragement here. have a great weekend, kris!

    1. alwaysalleluia

      Amen, Crystal. It’s startling to me how I even slip into that space, but I do–shamefully, I do! May we both be present and connect fully with those who matter the most in our lives.

  6. Ro elliott

    Kris…great words here…oh yes…we can be around people all day and never connect…learning along with you to live present in the moment with whom ever I am with. have a blessed weekend~

  7. Lovely. I celebrate with you for the time you were able to simply Be. To be you, with your family. Lessened distraction, Spirit led insight into one another, and the beautiful gift of time. Wonderful, friend. πŸ™‚

  8. “Connecting requires intentional action” Love this. Intentional is one of my buzz words right now. I’m glad your heart’s been pulled toward connection. And in case you get all down on yourself, I think you are an exceptional connector and your kids are blessed to have you.

    1. alwaysalleluia

      buzz word,..yes, for me as well, particularly as I am neck deep in MOPS planning for the comming year…. blessings, Tammy. Your encouragement is a gift.

  9. I find my husband and I easily fall into the trap of sitting in the same room on our separate computers. We’re together…but we’re not! We’ve just decided to limit our evening computer time to 1 hour so that we make sure we’re taking time to connect intentionally. Thanks for the bolster to my motivation!

  10. This is so lovely! Thank you so much for sharing. I love the ways that God gives us perspective to see & understand our children more clearly. I love that He leads us well so that we can lead them the way He does. What a great post! πŸ™‚


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