There’s a lie some of us heard when we were children that led us to believe that life would look like a fairytale. Some of us (foolishly) imagined life would be something more sanitary, more orderly, less messy and well, more perfect.
I don’t have a lot of great memories from the first year or so of marriage. Not because my husband wasn’t amazing, but mainly because I came into that new season of life with a giant pack of expectations. Probably a whole trailer full–18 yearss worth.
As a product of the Disney generation, too many sitcoms with happy endings, and nauseating chick-flicks filled with perfect couples, with perfect romances, it’s fair to say my expectations were warped.
So much growth happened during those first couple of years of marriage that looking back, it’s no wonder it was sometimes painful. God had to re-wire my entire way of thinking, and grind away my selfishness. I needed to learn how to love well, and fight fair. I needed a reality check.
Looking back, I wish I had known then, what I know now. I would have yelled less, and listened more. I would have done so many things differently–but I didn’t. I had to endure the process. I needed a hefty helping of real life and a few trips to the dump to drop off all of those absurd expectations.
After 14 years of marriage, 4 children, many moves, and various other happenings, I have come to appreciate the beauty (and difficulty) of real life.
There’s a depth and richness in these wily days that doesn’t exist in the “happily ever after” version pedaled by some. The best part of all of it, is that whatever we are in, whatever the season be it triumph or failure, smooth success or struggle, God is right in it with us.
Vicki Courtney knows about real life. As a mom and grandmama, she has had her share of real life experiences. Vicki’s latest book, Ever After: Life Lessons Learned in My Castle of Chaos, is an honest, and sometimes entertaining look at how despite the fact that our lives are less than perfect, there is grace and goodness to be found, and that really, this life is the one that we are called to live–God meets us right where we are.
Ever After is an easy read, applicable to most any adult woman, whatever stage of life they are in. There are nuggets of wisdom within the pages that will encourage you and give you while giving you a gentle reality check.
Learn more about Vicki HERE and grab a copy of Ever After: Life Lessons Learning In My Castle Of Chaos
*I received a copy of Ever After for free for the purpose of this review. Opinions expressed here are my own.