What happens when part of your identity is revealed to be a lie?

Who are you then?

For years I allowed my identity to be defined by things other than who Christ says that I am. I didn’t really realize it at the time, until the very fabric of that cloak of identity began to unravel. In a matter of days, the whole thing became nothing more than a pile of tangled thread. Ugly, sin-stained thread.  As struggled to make sense of this unraveling and the events that had led to it, I realized that some of my pain, came from the fact, that a large portion of the criteria that I had previously found solace in, something that had been a large part of my identity, now no longer applied.

It had been a lie.

Allowing our identity to be wrapped up in anything other than biblical truth is like building your house on the sand, one wild storm, and you are homeless.

Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away. Luke 21:33

So where do we go to find out whom we really are?  How do we break the chains that hold our identity hostage to generational sins or other sins against us that claim us as their own?

I am a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend, but above all of that, I am a child of God.

…among whom you also are the called of Jesus Christ; to all who are beloved of God in Rome, called as saints… Romans 1:6,7a (emphasis, mine)

How often does the enemy hold my frailty over my head, all of these worldly titles, who I am as a mother, or as a wife or as a friend is in jeopardy depending on how well I have performed. Whenever I have fallen into this trap of letting others, or circumstances say who I am, and it has been often, I come out the looser every time. People’s opinions of us change. Secrets surface and reality lays plain for others to judge. The truth of who we are can be found and secure only in Christ.

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. Psalm 39: 13

If I seek Christ to discover who He says that I am, I will find peace and strength in his embrace. I must go to the source, I must seek out the truth from the one who is Truth, the one who made us.

My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me,?when as yet there was none of them. Psalm 139:15-16

Who I am in Christ is secure because he will not abandon me. He never changes, and who I am in Christ will not be affected by the unpredictable waves of life.  To allow myself to be defined by any other measure is to live a life diminished.

How can I be effective for Christ if I am bound by who others say that I am?

Christ loosens the chains and bids me to find my rest and comfort in him.

With Christ I can be free to be who he has made me to be. I don’t have to explain myself to him. I don’t have to be held captive by my sins or the sins of others. That is true freedom, and while it has taken me a while to finally ‘get it’, I am embracing that truth with thanksgiving.

O Lord, you have searched me and known me!? You know when I sit down and when I rise up;?you discern my thoughts from afar.? You search out my path and my lying down?and are acquainted with all my ways.?  Even before a word is on my tongue,?behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. Psalm 139:1-4

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit. 2 Corinthians 17-18

Praying that you find your Identity in Him alone. Blessings to you, Friend.

~Always Alleluia

© Kris Camealy 2011 All Rights Reserved

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  1. Very good post. it is exactly where the Lord has me right now. It is too funny how He does that. I have been trying to express, as He leads, what He has done in the last year in my life. Recently have been posting about who I really am in Him, so much guilt, performance, and unloving has been stripped away and He fills with Truth, washes over me, heals and cleanses. Thanks for sharing your heart.

    Relentlessly Pursuing,


    1. Michelle,
      Thank you for commenting. It is not easy letting go of those things that we have believed for so long about ourselves, but you are right, he fills us up with his truth! All for his glory!
      Bless you!

  2. I can relate to this post, and to the lies, and to the identity crisis. I, too, had to stand against lies of the enemy (and still do) and to find my identity in him. Such freedom there. Still learning & growing. Going to him as the source for who we are is the only place to go. I’ve written about this topic, too, Kris, I can so relate. And I love that song “In Christ Alone”. Thank you for sharing this, today; blessings to you.

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