The In-Between

Posted by on July 30, 2013 in Book Reviews | 14 comments

It took 9 months to sell our home in Georgia.

For 9 months I lived as a single mom, while my husband took off for Ohio to begin his new job. The days ran long, while we waited for a buyer. We prayed and prayed and pleaded with God to cut this long ordeal short. Looking back, it occurse to me that perhaps our prayer was indeed answered, although 9 months felt more long than short.

For all I know, the 9 months wait was the short version.

God knows.

In-Between

I didn’t embrace that time much. I pined for my husband, and lamented raising a little baby alone, and having to maintain the yard and house all by myself.

My frustration mounted every time I had to mow the grass in the sweltering heat during my boy’s nap time. I rode that mower with the baby monitor strapped to me, with the volume turned all the way up.

I wasn’t thankful for the baby monitor, I was irritated that I needed to use it for this.

With the slow passage of each day, I pushed and kicked against God for allowing this process to drag on. Why was this taking so long? Why couldn’t we unload our house faster?

I was living an in-between season.

I’d emotionally detached from Georgia, and my heart had long left for Ohio.

I didn’t value this time like I should have. I lived closer to my parents then than I have in years, and didn’t make the trip near enough. I had only one child then, and though I savored the time with him, I could have done it better.

I was living in tomorrow, ignoring too many moments unfolding right in front of me.

We all have these seasons–these in-betweens. But what we sometimes fail to see in the middle of it, is that this, right in this moment, is where the living happens.

I’ve learned it since that particularly challenging season 9 years ago, but even now, I still forget.

Life is happening right now. This moment.

We can choose to be fully present, or we can try to push our way through.We live in a fast-paced, multi-tasking society  Jumping from one thing to the next is a cultural practice for most of us.

Only problem is, that doesn’t work.

 

Living  for the next thing, isn’t really living at all.

We are not as in control of our destiny as we like to think. For all of our pushing, sometimes the answer is still, not yet. It’s what we do in the “not yet” that makes up our life.

The bulk of our days aren’t spent in the next big thing–what shapes us is the journey from here to there. Jeff Goins just released a book about this very thing–and it’s a good one.

The In-Between

I spent a few brief minutes chatting with Jeff Goins about his new book, The In-Between: Embracing The Tension Between Now and The next Big Thing. 

Subscribers, view the video HERE.

In Jeff’s book, he candidly shares various in-between stories from his life, to which every one can relate.

Pick up a copy of The In-Between. It’s an encouraging read.

 

  • http://www.servingjoyfully.com/ Crystal

    We were in a similar situation last year, but decided to move as a family instead of waiting for our house to sell, and I’m glad we did because it’s been a year and counting! lol. Glad that it worked out for you and you were able to sell your house.

    I need to learn to embrace that “in between” time as well. I feel like I’ve grown a bit in this area, but still a long way to go. I’ve read a quote before “The truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.” I love that because I think it’s so true. I want to have that kind of joy from Christ and be able to embrace and get the most out of every season. Thanks for sharing :)

    • http://alwaysalleluia.com/ Kris Camealy

      Crystal, I am sorry it’s taking so long to sell your home. I know how hard that is. It can be a challenge to really embrace the in-between, but I keep re-discovering how richly rewarding it is when we actually DO it. Be encouraged, my friend.

  • Emily Simmons

    Kris, I’ve been living in the in-between for so long! Thank you for sharing, for your encouragement and wise words. I needed to read them today.

    • http://alwaysalleluia.com/ Kris Camealy

      Emily, I pray you feel energized to continue in this in-between season. It is precisely that, a season, and as you know–seasons change. God has more in store for you–hang in there! ;)

  • http://www.donaldmcallister.com/ Don McAllister

    Really great interview! I really appreciate the theme of this book, and it’s definitely something I need to embrace more in my life.

    • http://alwaysalleluia.com/ Kris Camealy

      Thanks, Don. I always get so antsy about doing an interview. I think you’d like this book– I have to say, it exceeded my expectations, which sounds like a backhanded compliment, but I just wasn’t sure if I would “get anything” out of it, and I really did. :)

      • http://www.donaldmcallister.com/ Don McAllister

        You did great! I know this anxiety you speak of quite well ;) I’m a big fan of Jeff Goins, so I’m pretty sure I’ll like this book. Too bad I have like no time to read anything right this second though.

  • christie elkins.

    Kris. I am in this spot right now. If you were in my town, I would bake some peanut butter cookies and invite you over to tell me things are going to make sense soon :)

    • http://alwaysalleluia.com/ Kris Camealy

      awe, Christie. I am sorry you are struggling. I LOVE peanut butter cookies. And would love nothing more than to sit on the couch with you and EAT Peanut butter cookies! I’m here if you need an ear–in the meantime, I’m praying for you!

  • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

    Thanks for sharing this, Kris. Loved our little chat!

    • http://alwaysalleluia.com/ Kris Camealy

      Thanks for chatting with me, @jeffgoins:disqus. I really appreciated your willingness to share your time, and also, this book. It’s a great piece of work. Congrats!!

  • Tonya

    Wow! I feel like maybe you’ve been sneaking a peek at my journals ;) I’m pretty sure you just wrote my heart here. I am in an in between moment right now having left my job and waiting to return to school and with no set schedule I am struggling with being ALL there… Because I want the next thing. Your words speak to me friend as they always do.

  • Amy L. Sullivan

    Fun! I’m running a Jeff interview today too! Always fun to see you talk, Kris!

  • http://www.alifesurrendered.com/ Michele-Lyn

    Loved the interview! You are a natural. :)